How should we deal with people who don’t like us… who don’t accept and approve of us… who judge and criticise us? This is a common problem that many face and about which there is a lot of emotional stress. I thought it apt, to bring this up on Valentines Day, the day of love. There will always be someone, who intentionally puts you down or even “bad mouths” you (especially in the corporate world) – these people reflect their own understanding or mis understanding of the universe. When you put someone down, you reflect your limitations, insecurities and powerlessness. One should develop the habit (especially senior professionals) of seeing things with their own understanding and not get coloured by peoples images and opinions, even if they are cloaked in performance, numbers and other crutches. A leader who can truly see employees, suppliers, partners and stakeholders for who they are, is indeed a leader. The “other” leaders are lazy followers of someone else’s opinions and mental machinations.
Today’s video touches on this theme in a beautiful manner. It says “allow people to dislike you”…a powerful statement indeed. I hope you enjoy listening to the same.
Video Length: 4 min 30 seconds
Dennis Taraporewala 