The human mind is a trickster. It not only takes itself too seriously, it is also in a continous state/awareness of “lack”. ‘Not enough money’, ‘not enough of adulation’, ‘my pictures are not taken’, ‘my play is not reviewed’, ‘my career is frustrating’, ‘my spouse is not responding’ and the mental dialouges are endless. And when the mind takes such a posture, it inevitably blames everyone around it for its stress – ‘you did not publish it’, ‘you are holding back my career’, ‘you do not notice me’ etc.
The constant awareness of “lack” in all aspects of life, becomes a self fulfilling propecy, colours your perception of your enviroment and eventually affects what actually manifests in your life. Then when a contricting cycle manifests, instead of seeing the cycle of manifestation and how it came about from thought to reality, instead you doubly confirm that everything around you is to be blamed. The awarenes of “lack” and “blame” go hand in hand and are a viscious cycle, ready to spiral a life to depression, fear and mental psychosis. When you blame – you are seeking retribution outside of yourself, something which can never come. To blame someone for what you want and did not get, for what you thought and did not happen, for what you feel and did create; shows that the emotional circuitry still needs to develop with the understanding of the universe.
The way out – is to focus on what is present, to create gratitude in your heart and to stop the mental habit of blaming people for your circumstances, situation and mindset. It also means the dropping of expectations, especially with those who are near and dear to you. We often “pile on” a series of expectations to people with whom we share our lives in some way or the other. To be in a relationship with no expectations is a true relationship. And the only way to achieve that is to see the areas of abundance, the areas of fulfilment. Anything else only leads to the un-required awareness of “lack”.
And this is true in business as well.
Dennis Taraporewala 
Swami Vivekananda said ‘Expect Nothing – Be Prepared for Anything’
Our routine responses to situations are founded on two legs : our perspective towards life and our social habit patterns. I agree with your view on nurturing gratitude in ones heart and positivity in ones conduct but would like to add something in terms of how I feel I try to approach this.
The right perspective about life, or since perspective itself is such a changing thing, may I say the right direction of perspective, prepares the ground for one to change ones habit patterns in a positive direction. Beyond that, any form of meditation that helps one centre ones mind serves to dismantle habit patterns within an environment of awareness. Change in this manner brings with is a spontaneity that connects one with the energy of the universe.
On the other hand, when I recall our ‘moral science’ classes from school, while they were always positive and well meaning, they also sow the seeds of ‘right’ and ‘wrong’ in a manner that I have had to unlearn to be able to relearn how to live in my own way.
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